Women are keenly aware of what people are communicating by watching eye movements, gestures, and tonality. We know when a person is manipulative or toxic. We know when someone is trying to take advantage of us or is putting us down.
Listen to that little voice alerting you to pay attention
As little girls, many of us had role models who kept quiet, went along to get along and kept the peace in the family. In our schools, we were told to behave and follow the rules. “Don't be bossy.” I appreciate Sheryl Sandburg and LeanIn.org for promoting. Be Bossy! #LeanIn
When you know that you or someone you care about is not being treated with respect:
#StandUp Acknowledge what you are noticing and feeling. Awareness is the first step. Allow yourself to objectively evaluate the situation. Think about it. Discuss what you are experiencing with a trusted friend or family member.
#SpeakUp Communicate effectively. It is critical to be heard. Use a calm, steady, unemotional manner and speak in a lower controlled voice. If you appear defensive or irrational, you may not be taken seriously.
There is a person in my life who is in an emotionally abusive relationship. I have witnessed the behavior. After discussing the situation with a close friend, I talked with the person who is being verbally and emotionally abused. I expressed my observations in a kind and informative manner. I have to accept that this person will make their own choices with their eyes wide open.
If you have a little tug on your heart or in your gut. Act on it.
I can awaken others awareness and then I will practice compassion for them. In my situation, I love this person and I accept them regardless of their choice. When they are ready to #Speak Up, I will be there.
#PowerUp Own your power. You are a strong, capable woman. Stay true to yourself and do not waver in your convictions. People will treat you how you expect to be treated. Maintain healthy firm boundaries.
A woman's intuition can lead you to create healthy relationships in all areas of your life.
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P.S. I am pleased to say that months after I wrote this blog post, the person in my life is no longer in the emotionally abusive relationship and this person is appreciating their freedom from abuse.
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